Stillness - Finding a relationship with yourself

Stillness in the face of stress....

Last week I talked a bit about how stress impacts your overall health and the connection that it makes with the health of your skin.  Each time I write a little, more thoughts come to mind. I walk away with a handful of Post-it® notes scribbled with ideas and topics. I take a break to clarify my thoughts and then read (or, rather listen to) books that help guide me on my spiritual path. Right now, I’m listening to Gabby Bernstein’s book “The Universe Has Your Back” and I grasped a whole lot that I wanted to share with you all!

“Much of our anxiety and stress comes when we’re focused on fear and disconnected from the voice of our inner guide.”―Gabrielle Bernstein
 
We all know a person that prides themselves on being stressed, equating stress with being busy, busy with being needed, being needed as being successful (or any arrangement of that flow). They thrive in stressful situations. Others, well, not so much. The others are the people in my room, seeking a moment of clarity, consoling, and calmness (and a kick butt service to boot!). The others are those practicing yoga, going for a walk, actually playing with their children, tuning in to a hobby or doing anything that brings their soul joy and purpose.
What’s the difference in the two?
Being aware, or attentive, to our absorption level of stress. Living in the present moment. Turning our minds off from the “what do I have to do next” and turning it on to connecting with what is happening right now.
So often we run around adding more and more to our to-do lists and calendars, or we take on others emotions without noticing how it is impacting our overall wellness. We burn out. And burn outs are rarely pretty, right?
 
So – how do we work with stress?
How do we become more attuned and aware of how our emotions are manifesting into broader issues? {I say “work with” because asking us to work against or altogether eliminate stress is pretty difficult and may even add more stress in trying to get rid of it (spiral out of control, crash and burn, you get it).}

Let’s take a moment to reflect on the quote above.
 
What are we choosing (tasks, relationships, etc.) to focus and give our energy to?
Does this create a positive feeling or a negative feeling?
What do you do for yourself that makes you happy and fulfilled?
Can we replace one negative task or interaction with something that makes your soul light up?

 
Being aware of your emotions as they relate to stress is not a mission of mastery. This is an act we must make a constant conscious effort to carry out. Some days will be easier and gentler than others. Some days we’ll have to look in the mirror and say “wow – not a great day at being mindful and centered – let’s try this again tomorrow!” – and that is perfectly okay. Wherever you are at on your path is exactly the right place to be today.
 
We’ll find that the more we are aware of our stress levels decreasing, the more we are spending time on the things we love, the happier we can be. The more joy radiates out of our body, the healthier we become. The healthier we are, the better the skin can perform its vital functions.
 
Awareness = lower stress = happiness = radiant joy = healthy body/mind/spirit = overall improved skin function
 
One last quote to ponder
 
“Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have”  .  Robert Holden